We Don’t Talk Anymore - Growing Apart
In the beginning, you had fun together. You went on dates, shared your dreams, thoughts, and feelings. You developed trust and companionship. But as time went on and life happened, you've grown apart. Career, children, in-laws, and daily hassles have taken over. Intimacy has dissolved, and you rarely touch each other anymore. Neither of you is happy, and something needs to change. You ask yourself, “How did we get here?”
You may be realizing there are several expectations, you've left unspoken. And even now, to prevent an argument, you may both avoid discussing important topics. Conversations are usually focused on kids, in-laws ... money. When a relationship fails to provide meaning and connection, one or both partners can turn to other sources for connection. These temporary solutions bring new problems into the relationship and the chasm grows.
Reconnection and healing are possible
Often issues that seem insurmountable can be overcome if talked about. When you come to therapy, we customize our approach to address the biggest obstacle facing your relationship. If you are struggling with financial alignment, we work on this issue first before moving on to other issues.
All couples argue and disagree at times. How disagreements are handled is more important than not disagreeing.
In couples therapy, you learn how to resolve conflicts in a way that does not damage the relationship. Conflict resolution must take each person's needs into account. Unfortunately, many people in partnership do not express their needs in a way the other person can understand. When conflict does happen, damaging strategies, including those learned from parental figures, are employed that resolve nothing. This results in more distance and disconnection. Therapy will help each of you understand how to manage disagreements in healthy and productive ways. You will learn new skills for communication and discover new ways to reestablish your emotional connection, find intimacy and restore trust.
A healthy, happy relationship is an important part of a fulfilling life. If you are struggling, reach out for help.
