Can Depression Affect My Relationship?

When a person is experiencing a depressive episode, they may withdraw from engaging with their partner, children, extended family, and friends. In the beginning, it may seem like they are taking a break from doing the things they used to enjoy. If you take a closer look, they are transitioning from living to existing. Their productivity at work may begin to suffer and they may call off more than ever before. They may forget routine tasks or cancel them without reason. When questioned about their feelings or lack of zest, they may be able to articulate their emotions uncertain of the reasons why. 

For couples, depression impacts the pair. A person experiencing sadness, a loss of pleasure, fatigue, and a host of other symptoms isn’t going to be up for a stimulating conversation. They may not be ready for physical intimacy any time soon either. The relationship will deteriorate the longer the depressive episode continues. The partner experiencing the depression may feel shame and guilt for their unexplained sadness and the impact on their loved ones. They may be disappointed in themselves for not being able to “make” themselves “snap out of it.” Furthermore, they may feel embarrassed if they don’t think their reasons are valid. Their partner may feel resentful, irritated, and rejected by their partner. The way each partner responds to their position will determine the longevity of the relationship.

We routinely catch the message that once you achieve that goal, you should be happy and life should be great.  In reality, striving for anything that we can obtain will only bring temporary satisfaction. 

• If you’re empty before you get the job, you’ll be empty afterward. 

• If you’re sad before you get the man, you’ll be sad afterward.

• If you doubt your worth before you make six figures, you’ll doubt it afterward. 

• If you dislike what you see in the mirror without the designer clothes or before the surgery, you’ll dislike it afterward. 

The good news is depression can be treated using therapy, holistic self-management, and some medications as another option. Dealing with depression takes time, patience, persistence, and a support system. For some people, you may have a couple of good friends you can lean on. For others, you may need to seek professional help.

For others still, if you are thinking about harming yourself in any way, it is time to seek help immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline phone number is 800-273-8255. Someone is available 24/7; it is free and confidential.

Reach out today for help!