Happily Married Couples Don't Live on Autopilot
As a couple living together, possibly raising children, and dealing with everyday situations, it is common to find yourselves arguing more and unable to find a rhythm that works. With busy personal and work schedules, it can be arduous learning to draw closer to each other. Many couples, who find themselves in this position, believe their differences are insurmountable. Sadly, at this juncture, some couples determine it is easier to live separately or to divorce.
A good marriage takes time to build, and the amount of effort required differs every day. There are times you’ll need to be more aware and intentional in your words and actions in your marriage. Other times, your conduct will seem nondeliberate. If you allow the hurried pace of life to dictate your interactions, your union will become transactional. Your marriage will be afflicted with difficult conversations, frequent arguments, and less pleasurable intimacy. Be intentional about tuning into each other's lives, learning about each other, spending time together, and being intimate. Decide to better your relationship daily by doing small things often. It takes minimal effort to handwrite a note of appreciation or to send an appreciative text. Likewise, you can order flowers online in 5 minutes. Watching basketball together could become a shared passion. Cleaning the house for 15-minutes could produce significant results and make your partner smile. You have invested years into building a life with your spouse don't allow your relational muscle to atrophy.
How can I help?
In Couples Counseling, I will help you reestablish the bond you formed early in your friendship and equip you with the tools to deal with everyday challenges. When my clients realize improvements, they begin drawing closer, enjoying each other, and dating again. If you’ve allowed your contact to become transactional and need help, click the 'Schedule Appointments' link below.